Safety

With bondage a dom and sub have to keep in mind the safety of the scene and have to make sure that all limits are understood. Respect and trust is an important part of bondage because you are giving up your control to another and trusting your care in the person dominating you. I was not very cautious when I was young and started to explore bondage situations. All I could think about was being tied up and I did not think about the consequences of not thinking through my actions. 

One of primary functions in your search is getting to develop a rapport with the person you are going to meet. It is vital that you understand the person you are talking to and know the background so you can establish a comfort level. This way you feel like you can trust the person enough to give up control or to control.  People are very connected in the bondage community so people know people and you should use these resources to know if the person you are meeting is genuine and trustworthy. If I have a great friendship with someone and they know a play partner I want to meet they can give you the trust you need to solidify if your meeting. This is vital and make sure you give enough time before a meeting   because all to often we rush into a meeting without know anything. 

It is also important to establish limits and make sure if you are the person controlling to be up front about your safety practices. I always like when people say they will expand your limits. I am not against expanding limits if consent is given to push them. I like to be up front and blunt. Beating around the bush only leads to interpretation and it could be misconstrued to play you did not want. We all want play to be a great experience and we want to both be satisfied with the session when it is done. 

The play space must be safe as well and we need to make sure the temperature is apporiate. We have safety tools in case there is a need for quick escape. Make sure all keys are in one place and that you have two sets of keys for the locking device. Also make sure the person is not visible sick and know there headspace about gags, hoods, and communication to end play. These thing are very important to making sure safe play happens and all to often gets missed. What happens when the lock doesn't open, bolt cutters. A safety shears and cleaning of play toys are important. 

I have had some bad play periods when I was young and it was not the brightest in my bondage career, but I did learn a lot from my shortcomings. Do not underestimate safety and trust when you play with a person because when I have followed these steps I have found great friends and had awesome play experiences. These steps are easy to follow and you should put your safety a head of your sex drive. Then when the play happens your sex drive will be turned up higher knowing that your mind is at easy. 

Play safe and play hard!